Have you ever had feelings for someone so much so that you would do anything to prove how much they mean to you but they in turn have feelings for someone else who does not care about them as much or don’t even realize they exist? If you haven’t been caught in this web before, I sincerely hope that you never get caught in it. It takes courage to choose to love someone who is in love with someone else. You are leaving yourself exposed to the highest degree with no certainty of getting the love back in return.
You feel so strongly but can’t do a thing about it. You feel as helpless as a baby behind the wheel. You wish you could just make the feelings go away. You have so much love to give to this person, and it can never be returned or even accepted. As ironic as this sounds, this fills you with a certain emptiness. You constantly compare yourself to the person they are in love with. What is it about them that they love so much? You’ll wonder. You think, If only I were different, if only I were like them, maybe then they would love me.
You don’t mean to, but you just can’t help yourself. You stalk them on social media to check for pieces of evidence. Are they happy? How happy are they? Why are they happy? What kinds of things are they into? Maybe they have some weird fetish, and that’s why they’re together. Or maybe he/she is a gold digger. That would explain a lot.
When we learn to accept that there is always a chance that things won’t go the way that you think they will, the less likely you are to be caught off-guard when that happens.
A friend has been in love with the same girl for over a decade now. She was the one he always believed he’d end up with; He was convinced that no matter how many times either of them screwed things up, they’d eventually come back to each other. And he recently had the opportunity he’d been dreaming of: They had another chance to give things a shot, it seemed. He learned that she was seriously in love with another man who is no good for her, but she feels for him immensely. And that’s one of the reasons he has always loved her so much; she has an immense capacity for love. He tried loving others, but it never worked out. I guess that’s why it was so incredibly difficult for him to see her in love with another man. He thought that if he couldn’t find love again, she must feel the same way. He believed she would love him for the rest of her life, as he will love her for the rest of his. But that wasn’t — isn’t — the case. So he closed the door on a love affair that changed his life and taught him more than anything else ever could.
The truth is, when you see the person you love fall in love with someone else, it breaks you. You feel lost. A part of you dies. You begin to redefine yourself (to me, this is a positive outcome because you let go of the stress and worry of not knowing how things will turn out, because now you know the answer). Afterwards, you either confirm your beliefs or you change them. You shift your perspective to the good things in your life, because if you didn’t, you’d go insane. You go out with friends, you get too busy to think, and bit by bit, you begin to feel better.
Love is blessing of God and unfortunately everyone is not lucky to get this blessing. If you love someone who loves someone else, you are not alone because every second another person somewhere in the world is facing this situation. If you can love this person so much with nothing in return, you can love someone else who will love you much more than you could ever imagine.